Parents Guide to Internet Safety: Keeping Your Child Safe Online
As of 2015, 92% of teens reported going online at least once per day. Of that 92%, there were 24% of teens who said they are online constantly. On average children ages 8 to 18 are spending 44.5 hours per week in front of screens.
- Why Is Internet Safety Important?
- What Is Cyberbullying?
- How Do I Know if My Child Is at Risk, or a Victim of Cyberbullying?
- How Can I Protect My Child's Online Reputation?
- How Can I Protect My Child From Identity Theft?
- Are Online Games Dangerous?
- How Can I Protect My Child if They Play Online Games?
- How Can I Reduce My Child's Screen Time?
- Where Can I Learn More?
With such high exposure to the internet it's necessary to teach our kids how to protect themselves online. Whether it be from predators, identity thieves, cyberbullies or simply inappropriate material, it's important for parents to show their children how to protect themselves and avoid dangerous situations.
This is no easy task - children today are born in the digital age and there is a myriad of social media and game sites that can be difficult for adults to wrap their heads around. Snapchat, Ask.fm, Kik, Whisper, Minecraft, Tumblr, Instagram, Pokémon GO, the list goes on and on. New apps and social media sites are being launched everyday.
Due to the ever changing landscape online and the risks it poses, it's important to maintain an open dialogue with your children about their internet use and how to stay safe by protecting personal details and not trusting strangers.
One of the biggest threats children and teens face when they go online is cyberbullying. Parents often don't realize the gravity of cyberbullying. According to a McAfee study in 2014, 87% of teens have reported seeing cyberbullying.
Another random sample study found that 34% of adolescents reported being a victim of cyberbullying. These attacks may come in many different forms, but all have one common thread in that they are digital. Common forms of cyberbullying are:
- Sharing media (photo or video) that is meant to embarrass a person and is cruel in intention, violent, or sexually explicit.
- Repeated harassment and physical threats made via social media, text messages, or message apps.
- The creation of fake social media profiles to solicit personal information, or hacking social media profiles to send untrue and hurtful messages.
Cyberbullying, unlike traditional bullying, can be unrelenting and inescapable. Once a video or photo is posted online it can be downloaded and shared thousands of times making it impossible to remove it completely from existence.
Every child is at risk of being bullied online. The best thing to do is keep an eye out for changes in behavior and listen to your child. If you suddenly find that your teen is not spending time with their friends, seems depressed or angry, doesn't want to go to school, is doing poorly in school, or is avoiding their computer or cellphone, start a discussion about cyberbullying and ask if they are okay.
It's important for victims of cyberbullying to feel loved and supported at home, and for them to know that it isn't their fault that they are being targeted. Victims of cyberbullying are much more likely to use drugs and alcohol, hurt themselves, and may even contemplate or commit suicide.
Many teens don't realize the importance of an online reputation. We were all adolescents at one point, and know that at this stage in our life we don't usually make the best choices. The last part of the brain to fully mature is the part that we use to control our emotions and impulses, pay attention, and think logically. This doesn't happen until we reach 25!
Teens aren't in full control of their emotions and aren't thinking logically 100% of the time, so they need guidance from their parents. Make sure your teen understands the consequences of oversharing personal information on social media, via text messages, or message apps.
According to a study done by Kaplan Test Prep, 40% of college admission officers check applicants' Facebook and other social media profiles, like Twitter, when deciding whether or not to accept them as future students. Not only could posting inappropriate content on social media affect their social lives, but it can also negatively affect their future education and career path.
As a first step, parents should run a quick search of their child's name in search engines, like Google and Bing. Make sure that you are searching for any nicknames your child might have and include the town where you live. This will give you more refined and pinpointed results.
If you find worrisome content, approach your child in a calm and non-judgemental manner. Make sure they understand why they shouldn't share some things, and work with them to delete any inappropriate content and improve their privacy settings. Encourage them to think before they post, share, or like something.
Even sending private messages can lead to negative consequences. Anything that you do online can leave a digital footprint that can be captured in a screenshot and shared, plus you don't always know who is on the other side of the screen. Discourage your child from sending things that they wouldn't want others to know about or see via private messages too.
There are several other ways that you can help your child protect their online reputation:
- Create your own account on social media sites like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat, and ask to be friends with your child. They may have multiple accounts, but this will still allow you to see some of content that they are posting and having posted about themselves. Plus it will give you a better understanding of the specific social media platform and how it works.
- Go over all of the privacy settings on their social media accounts with them. Encourage them to only be friends with people who they know and trust and to only share posts with their friends and not publicly.
- On some social media sites you can take control of what information people are tagging you in. On Facebook, for example, if you go to Settings > Timeline and Tagging > Who can post on your Timeline? You can choose who can tag you. Sometimes it might not be your child that is posting inappropriate things, but one of their friends who is and is tagging them in it. By changing these settings, they will be able to take control of their profile and what information can be seen.
- Lead by example, i.e. as a parent don't use profanity on social media, or post pictures that you wouldn't want your child posting. Avoid arguing on social media and never harass someone online.
By following these tips, you'll be able to help your child keep a healthy online reputation that will help them in the future.
Children, like adults, are susceptible to identity theft. However, in cases where children are the victims of identity theft it could take years to realize the damage that has been done. They may not find out that their credit score is terrible until they apply for a credit card or school loan, identity theft could prevent your child from both of these things and mean many more problems for their future.
Maintaining online privacy isn't just important for your child's personal wellbeing, but also for their financial wellbeing. Make sure that they're not sharing any overly personal information like their home address, cell phone number, and other sensitive pieces of information online. You can use a reverse phone lookup service, like CallerSmart, to make sure that your child's cellphone number isn't listed publicly. Many times a child might post their phone number on social media sites making it public.
Parents also need to be very careful with their children's personal information, be sure to never share your child's social security number in an insecure manner or with someone you don't know who has contacted you in an unsolicited manner. Be aware of email and voice phishing scams that could try to solicit sensitive information from you.
If you feel that your son or daughter may be the victim of identity theft, you need to file a report with the three major credit reporting companies. In the U.S. the three main credit reporting companies are Equifax, Experian and TransUnion. If you find that your child has been a victim of identity theft you will need to file a fraud report immediately. For more information on how to handle a situation like this, the Federal Trade Commission offers step-by-step instructions.
Many adolescents now play online and mobile games as a means of entertainment and a way to socialize with others. A whopping 84% of teen boys in the U.S. play video games either on a console, computer or smartphone. Teens play video games with their friends (89%), with people they are only friends with online (54%), and with people online who they are not friends with (52%). Due to the fact that often times a gamer will have never met who they are playing with online in person, extra precautions need to be taken.
There are a number of ways in which you can help your child stay safe while playing online and mobile games:
- Research the games that your child wants to play and check their ESRB rating to make sure that they are appropriate.
- If they are playing on a computer make sure that it has up-to-date antivirus and anti-malware installed. Have the computer in a central location, like the family or living room.
- Tell your child to let you know before they download something and look into installing parental control software.
- Help your child choose a username that doesn't reveal their identity. Usernames should be non-identifying, like "Frisbee10," and not include things such as first and last name, nickname, birthday, address, or school name.
- Passwords should be strong and complex. They should contain upper and lower case letters, numbers and symbols. You can make up a sentence with your child that they can use as a password for their gaming accounts.
- Make sure that your child knows about the importance of privacy and not to share information with people they meet online. Just as they wouldn't tell a stranger on the street personal details, people that they are playing games with online shouldn't be privy to personal information either.
- Discuss cyberbullying with your children and make sure that they know how to handle cyberbullying situations. Encourage them to ignore cyberbullies, and teach them how to document and report cyberbully abuse.
As we've seen with the launch of Pokémon GO, an augmented reality mobile game, online and mobile games will continue to change and create new risks. The most that parents can do is to stay informed about the different games their children are playing and have an open dialogue about the safety precautions that should be taken.
With augmented reality games, like Pokémon GO, parents should encourage their children to keep in mind the same tips as listed above. Unlike most types of online and mobile games, to play this game users need to be outside, walking around and exploring different locations. Warn your children to always be aware of their surroundings and never go walking to places where they haven't been or are unfamiliar with. They should always let you know where they are going and should stay in that area only.
Another issue with location-based games is that they will ask for more permissions than other games. Check the privacy settings on your child's phone to make sure that they aren't sharing unnecessary information with the company that makes the game. This is a good habit to build as many apps will ask for extra permissions that are not necessary to play the game or use the services that are offered by the app.
For more helpful gaming tips StaySafeOnline.org has many resources to help you safeguard your children when they play online and mobile games.
It's important to put limits on the amount of screen time your children spend everyday. A good way of doing this is by setting a positive example yourself and following some of the same rules that you've set for your children.
Some easy ways to reduce screen time are:
- Create a no phones/TV/tablets rule during family mealtime.
- Have a family game night or practice a shared hobby together at least once a week.
- Encourage your children to participate in after school sports or some form of exercise that's outdoors.
- Have a tech curfew and don't use cell phones, TVs, computers or tablets after it. To better enforce this rule you can set up a charging station that is outside of the bedrooms. Smart phones and tablets can get left to charge overnight in this area.
- Use an analog alarm clock instead of your phone.
- Don't have TVs or computers in bedrooms.
There are many different ways that you can help your children reduce their screen time, you can even incorporate them into the conversation and get creative. Find out what their interests are and how you can help them pursue them.
For more information on parental control software, DigitalTrends offers an excellent guide to parental control software for PCs, Macs, and Android phones.